Do Not Fear Silence

Communication is the key to our relationships. This is why I emphasis awareness of our inner tone. How you relate to yourself is an important indicator of your attitude in the world. But just as important is the tone of the silence between words and conversations.

There are many ways of communicating, the voice and choice of words but one. We use our body more often than words and because it is at times unconscious, it is a more honest form of communication  Our face readily expresses what we're thinking. Our eyes have been described as the window to our souls. 

We can also express ourselves through a medium, such as the written word, paint, an instrument or clay. Each is an opportunity to tell the world how the artist feels. 

Choice is a focal idea when it comes to many things, but in communication it is an important consideration. What we feel in a given moment, if we are not mindful, can be expressed in a way that is designed to make others reflect how we feel. You've heard the phrase misery loves company. This is true of all emotions. It's easier to wish good upon others when you're feeling that you've experienced good. Even if you don't wish for anyone to feel bad when you do, everyone expresses themselves to others. If you are not diligent you will lash out without meaning to.

Another aspect of communication we use constantly is energy exchange. Have you ever entered a room and been able to sense the mood, even if no one is speaking? Known what your partner or child is feeling, even if they don't say? Ever had someone ask you a question and heard the question they'd like to ask underneath? It's in silent moments we can pick up on theses feelings.

It's the silence with which I would have you concern yourselves with this week. Do you fear the quiet? Is it because there are things going on in your head you're avoiding? Is there an incessant stream of consciousness conversation occurring every time you see a certain person because if it were quiet you'd think of all the things that aren't being said? 

In the silence is where you must practice existing. When you come to terms with the silence, what you fill it with will be more meaningful and honest. And maybe you won't find yourself blathering away incessantly or plugging in head phones as often. Or saying something that people immediately know to be untrue because your energy and body language are honest and you words are not. 

Silence allows you the opportunity to listen. As you address your issues so the silence becomes welcome, you will be surprised at what you pick up. Not only will you hear the full nuance of conversations, you will know things that people aren't saying out loud. 

Our practice this week will be centered around the throat. We will explore those thoughts we tend to fill our silent moments with. We will work to open ourselves to being receptive, instead of filling space to be comfortable and stuck.